Day 29 is all about keeping yourself on track.
We’ve got two more official days of our breakup; after tomorrow, you’re going to be on your own. One of the most effective ways to keep your new relationship on track is to schedule a regular check-in with yourself.
Pull out your calendar, it’s fine if you use your phone, and create a monthly reminder to check in with yourself. Questions you could ask yourself:
- What parts of your relationship with your phone are going well?
- What about your relationship with your phone do you want to change? What’s one thing you could do to start?
- What are you doing, or could do, to strengthen your focus?
- What are your goals for the next 30 days?
- What fun plans could you make to spend time with people you care about?
- Have you reinstalled any of the apps that you previously deleted, let your phone back into your bedroom, or turned notifications back on? If so, does it feel like the right decision? (No judgement)
- What do you want to pay attention to in your life?
The parts of the relationship that are going well for me are having my notifications turned off and the times I put my phone away in a box. I don’t check my phone nearly as much, and the times I want to take longer breaks from it, I can do it much easier.
One thing I may want to change with the relationship of my phone, and it sounds crazy, but buy a cheap phone for my next phone. I almost want to be forced into not being able to have so many gigabytes that I can fill up with unnecessary apps. I would like to plan more study session times where my phone goes into “away” mode.
I’m not turning my phone on first thing in the morning, and I don’t scroll social media while I’m in bed. I’m also trying to incorporate more meditation sessions.
My goals for the next 30 days are planning times when I leave my phone alone. I’m going to give myself some penalties when I feel like I’m checking my phone too many times/scrolling endlessly. My phone will be placed in a little box in my room, and I can’t check it for a certain amount of time. Fortunately, my watch has Bluetooth for my text messages and calls, so I can still screen just in case for emergencies.
For fun things to do with friends, I want us to go to new places and do things we haven’t done before. I would like to do more active things with friends too like go hiking, walks, etc.
I’m slowly going to reinstall specific apps, but other apps I may keep off uninstalled completely. I reinstalled Snapchat today to catch up on all of the snaps I missed (they don’t have an online website). I’m keeping notifications off so that I’m not tempted to check snaps every second they come up. I’m still debating if I’m going to brings apps like Instagram and Facebook back, but what I do know is that the notifications will stay off, and the apps will not be on my home screen. I feel like slowly getting some of these things won’t be as harmful as they were before because I’m in a better place mentally with my phone. The worst thing that happens is that it starts to get bad again, and I delete the app.
I want to pay attention to the people in my life. Truly embrace the good that others offer to me whether it’s making me laugh, smile, or feel good in general. I want to pay more attention to my needs and health as when I’ve been sucked into my phone, I focused less on bettering myself.
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